25 things about turning 25
I’m going to try something new here on the blog. Today I’m turning 25 and I want to share some things I’ve learned about life or things I’ve enjoyed doing. I don’t want this to be a “do this and don’t do this” or a list of things to do before you turn 25 because everyone’s life looks so different! I don’t ever want to make someone feel like they haven’t done enough. Here are a few notes on my personal journey thus far.
1.Every season is worth celebrating.
I’m having a birthday party this year, and we are making it big. I love celebrating anything and everything. Parties are my way of loving on my friends and thanking them for their part in my life. Quality time is my love language so when they show up, I feel loved big. My 24th year sucked a lot, but my people really stepped up. Even if I don’t feel like it, life is always worth celebrating.
2. Being single is treated like the adult equivalent of being picked last for kickball. It isn’t.
Dear ones, no one loves the idea of marriage and family more than I do. Singleness is such a cool season, too! It teaches you so much about yourself. Getting married young is amazing, but so is getting married later. Being single doesn’t automatically mean there is something wrong with you or that you’re unwanted.
3. Clean living matters.
I’ve learned so much about food and toxins in our environment. I won’t say much on that since I personally get stressed out the more people tell me what I need to change, but making small switches in your quality of food and body care will be so good for your body!
4. Use an anti-aging skincare or just invest in good skincare and make-up. You’re worth it!
5. You will not always have your health, appreciate it.
6. Spending time with children I’ve learned, kids can be really cruel, but 90% of the time they are just saying what popped into their heads and have no idea it’s unkind. Don’t let those words rule the rest of your life.
7. Read Uninvited. No matter who you are, or what your religious affiliation. It’s written by a Christian, but it has so much good stuff in it that all women should hear.
8. Create morning and evening routines.
I love this one! It really helps me center my intentions for the day or unwind. (hint: neither routine involves any screen time)
9. It’s okay to not know what you want to be when you grow up.
I’ve recently heard Jordan Lee Dooley (SHE podcast, SoulScripts) use the term multi-passionate. It has really made me feel understood! I always feel super uncomfortable when anyone asks what I do because it’s never a short answer (caregiver, nanny, photographer, dog sitter, entrepreneur extraordinaire) . That’s okay! God’s given me multiple drives and talents and no one ever fits in one box.
10. Choose Joy and Gratitude
11. If travel is important to you, find a way to do it.
It doesn’t have to be expensive! You also don’t have to see everything before you get married or start a family. Bring travel into each part of your life. I’ve seen 3 continents, 35 states, and 5 countries in my short life.
12. Set boundaries.
This applies to literally everything. Say no. Know how much you can do in a week and not be burnt out. Set screen boundaries, and know how to recognize healthy relationships.
13. Learn about yourself, your strengths and weaknesses.
14. Take more pictures just in case.
I had a hard year with a lot of grief. I found myself taking a lot of pictures in case it was the last time, or just various reasons. You can always delete them later. I rather have a crappy photo of a special moment than none at all.
15. Scarcity mindset says there isn’t enough for everyone. Abundance mindset knows there is enough love, talent, clothing, and money for every one.
16. Do one thing that makes you undeniably happy each day.
I went to see Christopher Robin this summer with my best friend. There is a point in the movie where Pooh says something along the lines of “What day is it” “Why it’s today!” Replies Christopher and then Pooh says “That’s my favorite day”. Silly as it may be, it got me to try harder to make every “today” my favorite day. I failed a lot, but seeking out special moments changes things.
17. Learn to love yourself.
18. Forgive others even when it isn’t asked for, and when the relationship can’t always be mended. This is super hard, especially for my tendency to be a peacemaker, but it’s important.
19. Do what you’re passionate about, even if it can’t be your day job.
20. Reconnect to things that made you happy as a child.
When I was 9 I took horseback riding lessons, and for several years following. I loved horses. This past year I have been farm-sitting and it has re-lit a joyful place in my heart that I didn’t even know was dimmed.
21. If the opportunity arises, watch someone give birth. I’ve photographed one birth so far in my career, and it is still the most incredible thing I’ve ever seen. (Also double points if you’re actually the person giving birth)
22. Be kinder than necessary.
23. Read as much as possible.
24. Listen more than you speak.
25. Figure out what is important to you, and center your life around it.
I hope all of that wasn’t too cheesy, and some of it resonated with you! Thanks for reading and I can’t wait to see what life brings next.
(Note- I wrote all of this on my actual birthday, Tuesday, but will be posting on Friday. )